December 2011
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Quit Playing Games with My Head!
No sooner do I post the rest of my Justin story and finally start to feel like I’m over the whole thing, an e-mail from Justin pops up in my inbox! All it said was, “Hey, How’s it going? Cold out there, huh?” My initial thought was, are you fucking kidding me??! I don’t hear from the guy since our extremely awkward past encounter and that’s the best he can do? Banal chat about the...
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Justin #2 - Complete 180
Where did I leave off? So things with Justin #2 started out really well. He was acting super into me—calling every night and initiating getting together—and things seemed to be progressing quickly. Unfortunately, things went South equally quickly.
I detected some weirdness when I spoke to him on the phone the night after I went to his apartment and didn’t stay over. It was good...
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Justin # 2 - So NOT BF Potential!
It’s been about a month now since my first date with Justin. I wish I could say I’ve been MIA on my blog because I’ve been so busy being romanced by him, but the truth is, he turned out to be a COMPLETE jerk. So disappointing. Here’s what happened. After our whirlwind first date, Justin seemed really interested in me. He contacted me right away about getting together again,...
November 2011
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Had to share this... am I too harsh?
So I exchanged a few email messages with this cute guy from match. Unfortunately he turned out to be sort of dumb:
Redsoxfan: Hey Id love to chat
Me: Hey, Sounds good.
Redsoxfan: I was drawn to u Cus u like staying positive. I have no time for negative people. Plus your a hottie lol
What are u doin in Nyc? Do you participate in black Friday shopping Have a good day!
Me: That’s...
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Future Boyfriend Potential??
I’ve been dying to post about my recent date with Justin #2! Things were crazy with work this past week—I had to go on an unexpected business trip—and they’re just now settling down enough for me to write this.
Anyway, I had my first date with Justin #2 last Saturday. I’ll try to give an accurate rundown of events, but the whole experience is kind of a blur. We planned...
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Update re: My Latest Date
In case you’re wondering how things went with Justin #2, we actually had to reschedule the date till this Saturday, so I’m meeting up with him later this afternoon. We originally planned a date for last Saturday, but then that bizarre snow/rain/wind storm hit and ruined everything! Maybe that’s a sign that I shouldn’t be going out with him. OR, maybe it’s actually...
October 2011
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On to Justin #2!
Now that I’ve had a few days to think things through, I realize Justin is not worth my time and I should just move on. Analyzing things to death is never productive—who the hell knows why we hit it off and then he disappeared from the face of the earth—so I should spare myself the frustration. Besides, I’ve been having some good convos with a different Justin and we have...
callumdempseyleach asked: I would rather talk you into it! :)
Someone talk me out of it!
I am SO fucking disappointed and annoyed right now! Justin has not contacted me since our date on Friday. I don’t get it at all. We totally clicked and he acted like he wanted to see me again. Should I call/email/text him at this point or is that totally pathetic? I don’t want to beg him to go out with me, but I just felt such a connection. Maybe he is just insecure and doesn’t...
Amazing Date!
I’ve been meaning to write the whole thing down, but haven’t had a free second this weekend with my parents in town. Justin and I went out on Friday instead of Thursday (last minute change of plans because I had to work late… again, ugh). We met on my side of town and went to this really cool wine bar that I’ve been dying to check out.
When I arrived he was already sitting...
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My god. I don’t even know what to think. I finally got an email from Justin saying that “Thursday is good.” Isn’t it a little ridiculous that it took so many days for him to respond?? Should I even go out with him again, or am I just setting myself up for disappointment? According to the little I know about men, this lag time between contact suggests disinterest. Or maybe...
Need to calm down
I emailed Justin back to see if Wednesday or Thursday work better and I still haven’t heard from him! That was several days ago. Should I assume he changed his mind? Maybe he is just not sure yet..? He is a medical student and tests and work can pile up, so he also could have forgotten to respond.
This is my least favorite part of finding a guy I actually like! The obsessing and analyzation...
Score!
So I gave in and emailed him, despite my 2 favorite coworkers telling me to wait it out. It was a simple email: “Hey Justin, I had a really good time the other night and wanted to see if you’d be up for hanging out again..?”
Immediately after sending it I began obsessively refreshing my inbox like a freak. But, a couple hours later he replied(!): “Hey, yeah I had a nice...
Finally!
After a slew of bad dates, I was beginning to lose hope completely that there was anyone worth the monthly subscription fee. Until…
I made plans to meet Justin at an Ethiopian restaurant on the UWS this past Monday night. Accustomed to disappointment, I waited at our table for a less attractive version of his profile pic to shuffle toward me. It didn’t happen. Instead an adonis, with...
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Naughty Cakes & Vampires...My Date with Pat (pt 2)
Sorry to leave you all hanging for so long. Okay, where was I? Pat and I finished up at the diner and had to figure out something else to do. Fortunately I didn’t have to think too hard because no sooner had we left the restaurant than Pat spotted a Tasti Delite and suggested we get a frozen yogurt. Apparently the omelet, toast and potatoes didn’t quite cut it. Fine by me. I had no...
September 2011
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Total Turnoff...My date with Pat (pt 1)
I’m exhausted and really need to get to bed, but I wanted to at least start recounting my latest date. Oh, where do I begin with Pat….First off, I really wanted to like him. On paper he’s everything I’m looking for (besides being slightly younger than me). He graduated from a top school, has a good job, enjoys the same TV shows as me, and loves food (a huge plus),...
SO not worth it
I took a little while to post this date with Rick from Sunday because I wanted to make sure I got every detail in. Let me preface by saying that I emailed him to confirm the day before and didn’t get a response until an hour before we were supposed to meet…
As planned (and finally confirmed), I met Rick at Spice Market. It’s in the Meatpacking district, which is a good 50-minute...
You a*$% hole!
So my date with Steve last night…?
Standing in the middle of 3rd Avenue and 89th, I wondered if I had the right place. No, it was definitely the right place. Oh, maybe I was supposed to meet him inside…? I walked in, told the hostess I was meeting someone and sauntered through the entrance trying to look as un-self-conscious as possible without looking like I thought I was hot shit...
Dates postponed...
So the other dates I had scheduled for this week were postponed: Steve and Rick. I am meeting Steve tonight at 7:30 and Rick for lunch this Sunday. Steve seems smart and nice. And very cute in his pictures. So I’m excited and also sort of nervous… I’ll report back on our date tomorrow! By the way, in case you were curious, here’s a photo of The Subway Inn from my date with Kyle…
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Guest Blog Post: Online Dating by DecorusMens
This post is from fellow blogger DecorusMens, describing her unfortunate online dating experience. Thanks for sharing and keep ‘em coming!
I joined this online dating site my freshmen year of college. I had been doing a lot of online quizzes and all of them seemed to come from the same site. Therefore, I joined in efforts of just keeping my autobiography of self assessments, which included...
Never go to The Subway Inn... Part II
So, where did I leave off? The gross bar, his hearing/speech issues… anyway, despite these obstacles, I learned that he is interested in making funny videos and works at a hedge fund. He likes his job but hates commuting home to New Jersey every day. Like me he has many siblings. Unlike me he is not close to any of them and “prefers it that way.” He didn’t like college and...
Never go to The Subway Inn
So Kyle and I went out last night. We emailed throughout the day to try to figure out a good meeting spot. We finally decided to meet up, per his suggestion, at the Subway Inn. I got there first. The neon sign flashed inappropriately in the late-afternoon sunlight. It was hot and sticky and the bar looked like a shit hole. Luckily we were just “meeting there” and then finding...
There is still hope!
So things are looking pretty tasty this coming week in terms of new guys on my plate. There’s Rick (CoolMan24). He winked at me and sent me a short email sans spelling errors—always a turn-on. He looked reasonably cute in his profile photo, with a slight tendency toward albinism. Not usually my thing, but what is pigment anyway? A hot tan pales in comparison to a winning personality ;)....
Saks and 7 Eleven
My date with Tom? Major disappointment. I agreed to meet him at Saks in the jewelry department. (Don’t ask. It was his idea). As soon as I saw him my heart sank. Let’s just say his pictures were flattering, to put it mildly. His hair was speckled with grey, and not in a sexy George Clooney way, and he was definitely not 6’4” as he boasted in his profile. For a second I ...
Sunshine after the rain..?
So after all that hurricane crap, I’m back in town and ready for a date with Tom this weekend. We’ve been talking, well, emailing for a few weeks and just had a surprisingly unawkward pre-date convo. This one could be a winner: he’s 32, went to Princeton and has an apartment in Soho. Needless to say, I have high hopes. He’s also 6’4”! I’m really into tall guys....
August 2011
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Online Date #1 = Major FAIL (pt. 2)
Derek. Where did I leave off? So I noticed that the guy at the bar was looking at me kind of strangely, although he could have just been reacting to my blatant starring as I attempted to determine whether or not he could be Derek. If it was him, his photo was certainly flattering. Before I could make up my mind, the bartender came over and told me that the guy seated at the bar wanted to...
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Online Date #1 = Major FAIL (pt. 1)
Where to start….The plan was to meet at a bar (of his choosing) at 8. Since the bar was in the East Village, quite a hike for me, I had to haul ass after work to go home and change and then get there on time. A few blocks from the bar, I got a text from Derek saying he was there, that there were only two guys at the bar and that “I better choose the right one.” Um…yeah, okay. Maybe...
So I went on that date with Derek… DISASTEROUS!!! I’m too grossed out and annoyed to even write anything now. More later….
Proud New Member of the Online Dating Club
My Match profile is up! I’m still getting used to the whole concept of online dating but I have to say it’s not as weird as I thought it’d be. I think I can do this.
I ended up winking back at this guy named Derek (for those of you not familiar with Match.com, “winking” is what you do to show that you’re interested in someone; kinda lame if you ask me, but...
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Dipping Into the Online Dating Pool...
I’m 27 and have lived in New York City—a place supposedly full of eligible, well-educated, ambitious singles—for five years and have found tons of guys that fit the bill. The problem is, all of them are total assholes….I have a massive hangover, nothing in my wallet but a Trident wrapper, and a shirt stained with cheap beer thanks to the cocky investment banker who idly chatted me up...